Scientists say: online love is more real than we think
We were fortunate (most likely) to live in a world ruled by technology. And with all the bonuses that they are able to offer, the gradual introduction of technology into the domestic sphere has only been a matter of time. Now you can fall in love with Instagram , get married through Skype, and leave, changing the status of VC. So some people develop the most real virtual relationships. Only here are these?
People fall in love with those they meet online, and these feelings are real, experts say. “It probably does not happen to everyone, but when it does, it can be something intense and very tangible,” says Live Science Joseph Walther of the Michigan State University, who studied online relationships.
The online environment is a hothouse for cultivating perfect love. “First, we can only get limited information about our partners,” Walter notes. This, according to the researcher, makes a person fill in the existing gaps with either very positive or negative details, where both of them only warm up the love interest.
“In addition, the Internet provides all the opportunities for cultivating the seed of romantic love and turning it into a more powerful feeling,” says Catalina Toma, a professor of communications at the University of Wisconsin, who studies deceptive strategies in online relationships . She notes that it works especially well in personal correspondence, where an instant response, as it happens in real life, is not required, so that the sense of time is erased.
“Here you have more control over what you say, and there is the opportunity to be selective in what facts you want to disclose to the interlocutor, and which ones you would prefer to keep with you,” she adds. According to the expert, the anonymity of the Internet also fuels the natural human desire to seem better. Since information about body language or emotions on the network remains hidden, people tell more, including rather personal information, but choose what will benefit self-presentation. From this, the sense of closeness between virtual lovers with each dialogue is getting stronger.
Nevertheless, in most cases, people at some point have a strong desire to transfer the relationship offline. “Starting with instant messengers and social networks , they go to personalized photos, phone calls, and eventually organize face-to-face meetings. And there, love can blossom or fade – it all depends on how much fantasy is different from reality, “Toma says.
At the same time, a study by psychologist Monica Whitty of the University of Leicester showed that people who meet on the Internet usually quite quickly realize the danger of romance in cyberspace. Because the longer they do not meet, the more idealized the image. And the more ideal a person appears on the other side of the monitor, the more difficult it is to cope with his real flaws when trying to turn virtual relationships into something more traditional.