Retail therapy: shopping calms, but not all and not always
It’s no secret that shopping (and, not so important, with a final chord in the form of a new dress or not) can make us feel good. And while some he exhausts and tires, others, like athletes, who run a marathon, in a certain minute, opens a “second wind”, allowing them to make even more purchases.
Despite the fact that in official sources nothing like this will be found, psychologists often talk about shopping as a rileyl therapy, implying that for someone it can be an effective way of solving mental problems. Because a person who really likes to shop, returns home not just with a package of things that lifts his spirits, but with a sense of accomplishment and comfort from the fact that the goal was achieved.
Control, socialization and self-love
In a comment for Refinery29, psychotherapist Amy Morin (Amy Morin) says that shopping, in fact, can be an excellent mechanism to overcome a whole list of disorders. Not least because it allows you to treat yourself with love and gratitude.
“When we go shopping, we continually imagine how we put on a new suit for work or a dress for a date, imagine how we use the cream for the night, which we hold in our hands, and how our skin gets better and better … When we we do it all, we feel really happy. The secret is that you do not even need to buy a suit, dress or cream to experience this impulse, “she explains.
Experts in the field of mental health agree that shopping improves well-being also because it allows at least some time at least some area of ??their lives to keep under control. “When life is chaotic, it destabilizes even the most powerful people. But a shopping trip, even in a situation of complete chaos, involves choosing a thing and buying it – nothing more, “adds Maureen. She stresses that the sense of control in this case, of course, is false, but it nevertheless works for the good.
The third bonus, which provides us with shopping – socialization. Even if a person goes shopping alone, he must in any case leave the house, go by subway or bus to the shopping center and spend there for a while.
When shopping therapy does not work
A 2011 study, published in the journal Psychology and Marketing, showed that retail therapy is able to cope with stressful congestion and bad mood, at least in the short term. Although researchers warn: purchases in a bad mood are often impulsive, so think several times, do you really need this thing before you go to the cash register.
It is also important to understand that shopping will never replace real therapy if we are not talking about the state of “how everyone is rattling,” but about mental disorders. “Many people are disappointed that the item they bought does not bring them the happiness they expected,” says Amy Maureen. This, she said, can cause loss of interest in life and work. A separate item is the purchase made outside the financial plan, which can cause even greater stress.
So, if you feel that you use shopping as a rescue from loneliness or as a struggle with anxiety, try to replace it with another, no less effective in this sense, activity. “Physical exercises, meditation and even reading books – all this, as studies show, works fine. But if you are less likely to meet for coffee with friends, if you are no longer carried away by things that were carried away earlier, and if you understand that you do not even want to get out of bed in the morning (and it lasts more than a couple of weeks) it’s time to talk to a specialist, “concludes Maureen.