“Birdie is a pity”: why do we cry over films and what is the point
Not necessarily “Titanic”, “Hatiko” or “Big Fish”, but, for example, “The Avengers: The War of Infinity”, left the fans in uncertainty. Anyway, sometimes films make us cry. And while men can manage to brush off a tearful tear from their cheeks, women’s films are able to make them cry so forcefully that they will need time to at least relax a little before leaving the dark hall of the cinema . How much is this catharsis good for us? It turns out very.
“In the world of psychotherapy, we believe that releasing emotions in any possible way is a very good thing. Because suppressing emotions can lead to serious problems if you do it all the time, – says Refinery29 psychotherapist Lena Aburdene Derhally (Lena Aburdene Derhally). – Sometimes tears during the film, especially if it’s not a drama, but something less emotional in itself, say that some emotions have been in us for too long. And when they had the opportunity to free themselves, they immediately did it. ”
The expert adds that films, books and music in this sense turn into excellent home therapy. There are well-known cases when a person brings himself to such a degree of emotional tension that eventually the hysteria will provoke something very strange – a comment to the task at the meeting or a pen that has fallen to the floor. If you understand that you save emotions in the same way, but do not want something like this to happen to you at work or in another place that is not suitable for that, keep in mind that movies (especially with the relevant storyline) are able to help.
The truth is that tears do not just give you a sense of relief, but represent a very real emotional unloading. Including, from the physiological point of view. Lena Aburden Dherhalli explains that crying releases toxins (which reduce stress ), endorphins (hormones that make us feel happy ) and oxytocin (a hormone responsible for creating a sense of attachment). At the same time crying during the movie is especially good, because you are thus emotionally connected to what is happening on the screen, without actually experiencing anything like that in real life.
“I know for sure that people who do not cry so much in real life, sometimes cry at the movies. And then they wonder how “some movie” can provoke sobs, “says Derhalli. “But the secret is that films can relate to those feelings that we usually do not have access to. For example, if the film has death or loss, and we experienced something like that once, the story on the screen unknowingly links to a real, almost forgotten history, triggering an emotional response. ”
Perhaps it does not seem like a good idea, but some of us are really useful to watch movies with the goal of “crying”. Speech, as you probably guessed, is about those who every day and in any situation keeps their emotions under control .